This morning I had the misfortune of stumbling upon an article in the Guardian, entitled “Postnatally depressed dads? – Give me a break”. The purpose of the article, written by Barbara Ellen, was, I think, to criticise the use of the term “PND” to describe the symptoms some men experience after the birth of a child. However, she was also particularly dismissive of men who experience depression postnatally, using terms such as “Pissed off, knackered and yearning to be carefree again” and “exhausting narcissists” and “men incapable of hiding their sulky self-absorption”.
What is trauma?
Trauma is a word that is frequently used, but what does it actually mean? Trauma is commonly understood as the experiencing or witnessing of an event that is life-threatening or dangerous or otherwise overwhelming. It usually involves a feeling of helplessness. Many people serving in the military experience trauma, as do individuals who survive a natural disaster, serious accident, or personal attack. Traumatic stress can also be caused by ongoing stress caused by, for example, living in an abusive relationship or struggling with a life-threatening illness. [Read more…]
Anger is an emotion common to all of us as human beings, whether we recognise it in ourselves or not. The way we express anger (or don’t), is largely shaped by our past life experiences. You may have been punished for expressing anger when you were a child, or you may have witnessed your parents’ anger when it was out of control and frightening or when it manifested in other ways, such as through stoney silence. [Read more…]